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Will Peters 

By: Will Peters
Number of Reviews: 26
Average Score: 75

Alt.comseems to attract a good number of visitors to its pages. Now as you can see by some of our surfers' comments, there's some positive and some negative feedback. First, I'd say most online dating sites have issues when it comes to whether all profiles are genuine. I also think that as far as the alternative side of things, I'm sure that someone who is merely curious about fetish sex and BDSM probably feels that a site like this one is a place merely to dabble in fantasy.

Now my advice would be similar to what some of readers who felt less misled by have said. You can't have the ideal kinky relationship blossom like a perfect rose without pulling some weeds and risking the possibility of getting pricked by a thorn. However with chat rooms, blogs, an online magazine with user-submitted articles and groups you can join to help you get to know people better.

You can also check out your local area for how many activity members there are by creating a free profile and doing searches by zip code in the U.S. or by a dropdown of select cities if you live in the U.K. Now for other countries, like Canada for example, you can't search by city until you upgrade to have access to advanced searches.

The other issue is that you can't see many full profiles if you're a free member. Some premium subscribers pay extra allowing all members to view their complete details (excluding free views of any additional pics). Alternatively, if you own profile proves very popular, you may earn the ability temporarily to view additional profiles beyond the small standard limit.

For me though, if I was joining only to feed my voyeuristic tendencies then the explicit live member cams would be the real pull. On my visit, there were definitely more men and crossdressers than there were women online, but it was the middle of the day. I also saw some male with female couples.

Definitely from a dating standpoint, I think that you're going to see the most success if you pay for your membership. I'm not sure that I'd bother springing for the extra fee that allows all members to contact you, because these special profiles aren't marked in any way to let people know that anyone can contact you.

I’d probably just go with the cheaper of the two premium memberships, because it allows whomever you contact to reply back regardless of whether they've paid or not (the number of replies is limited on a daily basis for free members). In the end, is worth checking out for free, especially for the naughty amateur hotties on cam.

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  • Comment by: Anonymous

    Score: 100% Date: 12/05/2014 -- ALTernative Lifestyle, BDSM, Fetish & Kink Personals

    I think the 'key' word is, "Personals" -- NOT!!!

    I have been a Member for 13+ years now and it has severely decayed as a 'personals' Website for the last 3 - 5 years.

    Thousands of fake profiles. In the first day alone, I had over a dozen 'messages' .... mostly from Ghana and Nigeria. After only a few hours of communication with a 'woman' on Instant Messenger, she was asking me for airtime for her cell phone.

    There may be real people hoping to meet other real people, but those Profiles are so few and far between it's not worth your time or money. No one is within a commutable distance from you. has become nothing more but a safe haven for fakes/flakes/frauds, liars, posers, scammers and wannabes from around the world whom have read the, "50 Shades Of Grey", series and now think they're either Dom/me, Master, slave or submissive just living out their fantasies via Chat Rooms and/or Interest Groups -- there may be .005% of the Member/ship being 'real' -- but, even that percent might be too high.

    What else is there to say about an online adult personals Website that allows its Members to change/edit/update their Date Of Birth (a legal, never-changing fact) whenever they get a whim to appear younger???

    Due to this DOB change/edit/update feature/function, I have stumbled upon 13 Profiles that according to their DOB and Date Of Membership, they were 11-years-old to 17-years-old when they joined!!!

    Seriously .... 11-years-old when they joined!!!

    I don't think I need to say anymore, but I'll go ahead and list the 'Pros' & 'Cons' below ....

    ⦁ Thousands of Profiles with pictures of well-known celebrities and sexy pictures of well-known porn stars -- mostly claiming to live in Canada, Texas and United Kingdom (as a matter-of-fact, just last week I saw Angelina Jolie -- according to her Profile she's single, submissive and living in Austin, Texas)

    ⦁ Change your Date Of Birth (for free) easier than changing your panties to make yourself appear younger at any time and further dupe other Members

    ⦁ Chat for free with thousands of fakes/flakes/frauds, liars, posers, scammers and wannabes from around the world via live Instant Messenger (when it's working)

    ⦁ Create an Interest Group -- then, create multiple Profiles and join your very own Interest Group to make it look more popular

    ⦁ View webcam shows for your masturbatory pleasures

    ⦁ CyberSex your brains out in any Chat Room

    ⦁ Advice Line, BLOG and Magazine

    ⦁ Infested with thousands of fakes/flakes/frauds, liars, posers, scammers and wannabes

    ⦁ Fee charged to change your UserName or Gender, but you can change your Date Of Birth (a legal, never-changing fact) for FREE -- easier than changing your panties to make yourself appear younger at any time and further dupe other Members

    ⦁ Censorship -- the word 'rape' is a banned topic in any BLOG and Post, automatically declined when clicking-on the POST YOUR REPLY button; yet there are 433 active Interest Groups containing the word 'rape' in their title and hundreds of Members with the word 'rape' in their UserName. But, it's okay to make Posts/Polls regarding murder involving killing your daughter, girlfriend or spouse

    ⦁ Customer Service is a joke -- I believe it's outsourced to India as the lack of communication is appalling and amounts to NOT understanding written English

    ⦁ Abuse Team, Legal Department and Site Support lies to you

    ⦁ Thousands of 'Date Bait' Profiles

    ⦁ Hundreds of thousands of dead/unused Profiles. Just the other day I viewed a Profile that stated, 'Last Visit: March 17, 1999' -- yet, when I visited the Interest Groups that they belonged to, it kept the number of Members 'active' (I also noticed a lot of the same Members belonged to the same Interest Groups). After doing a Reverse Image Search of the Profile picture/s via Google and/or TinEye, the majority of the Members/Profiles were fake

    Some warning signs to watch out for:
    01. Incomplete, inconsistent and unusual things in their Profiles; and, all info is written in lower case letters including their name
    02. Grammar, punctuation and spelling isn't correct (even though they claim to have a Master's degree)
    03. They don't carry the conversation like somebody would if they were truly interested in you
    04. They immediately want to move the conversation to an off-site Instant Messenger
    05. They use a lot of phrases like 'my dear', 'my love' or 'the love of my life'
    06. They are vague or fuzzy when you ask them specific questions
    07. Only one picture shown and it's a very attractive woman

    Use common sense. The 'lovely lady' you're speaking to is likely some dude sitting in an Internet café. If it seems too good to be true, it probably is!!!

  • Comment by: Frankie

    Score: 5% Date: 02/07/2013

    The site appears genuine till you start getting;
    - pay for play, lots of those
    - "I want to marry you" fraud letters from someone posing as a gal looking for $ not love, lots of those (they even send you nice pictures)FRAUD for sure
    - they try to double bill or will take your 12 month payment and use the funds to list you on two other sites making your 12 month membership into only 4 months, SNEAKY
    - the site is linked internally to other dating sites which they control and they will flip your profile around, unless you're on your toes you won't catch them doing this, . . I did by listing a profile on an affiliate site but only filled in 50% of my personality, on my paid site I filled in 80% of my personality, then every once in a while I would see that my personal profile was only 50% complete. Sneaky. They then take your filled in profile (50% or 80%) move it around their affiliate sites to show they have NEW MEMBER listings, SMOKE AND MIRRORS
    - some of the profiles are fillers (posers/fakes)and those people actually get paid to fantasize with you but will never meet you, . they get paid by the number of email responses they generate, they are for the most part STANDARD MEMBERS, misleading and fraudulent
    - BIG CLUE, go to their FAQ page, ever see so many FAQ's? No you haven't because legitimate sites don't have paying members calling or emailing every minute of the day because of all the BS

    AFF AND ALL OF THEIR AFFILIATE SITES ARE 90% FAKE. READ THEIR FINE PRINT, THEY SAY IN BLACK IN WHITE "strictly for entertainment purposes" "whereas no representation made to guarantee members, paid or otherwise will meet any member" blah blah bull shit
    -the site has some nice features, they are up to date with web cam etc., email takes 24 hours

  • Comment by: john

    Score: N/A Date: 10/11/2012

    Absolute scam all the way you're just making some fat cat owners of these sites like,, etc. somewhere filthy rich when you give them your cc to join this bullshit shyster shady dating site not legit in anyway, most IF NOT ALL of the profiles are fake/phony and you are stupid and gullible if you think otherwise, or maybe you are just trying it out to see IF YOU WILL ACTUALLY MEET SOMEONE--- DO NOT BEWARE AVOID AND SAVE YOUR MONEY!!!

  • Comment by: roger whale

    Score: 20% Date: 09/21/2012

    i was a gold member for two years never had a face to face meeting in spite of trying several invitations a week from me. Most women are either too timid or too overwelmed by no of reply or possibly poseing as live bait to attract punters for the pleasure of attention with no effort ie very safe sex.many said they had over 100 woman nearby wanted lots of sexy messages but wouldn.t meet.daily message xchange for weeks but always cautious,a genuine tease that was enough for herif u want real sub women hit the bars forget

  • Comment by: peter

    Score: 5% Date: 03/31/2010

    if you want your money to be stolen this website is for you. fake girls, fake shit!
    and e-mails that contain contact info in the first emails are deleted ,this is true.

  • Comment by: Steve

    Score: 5% Date: 09/01/2009

    this site didn t stand out among other dating websites, as said above site is broken at times, they monitor/intercept/erase e-mails that contain contact info in the first 2-3 e-mails. gold members even have to pay a extra fee for free members to respond.

  • Comment by: John

    Score: 88% Date: 08/25/2009

    I think it still a great site.